After writing the last post, I figured that this might be a more comprehensive (but not exhaustive) guide on how I assess whether I want to get serious with anyone. I do have a basic (some might not say it’s not basic at all) set of criteria – to match my values, just to speed up the decision-making process – give me some credit for being efficient, at least.
There are some types that instantly put me off. I can’t stand braggy men. It’s obscene to talk about money, so please don’t tell me what kind of place you live in, and how big it is, your holidays, la di da. Also, I can’t stand men who imply that they enjoy ogling at models – instant write-off. Women know that men are visual creatures and appreciate beautiful women (hey, we do too), and there’s no immediate need to underscore that point, thanks! And after dating so many angry, depressed and/or alcoholic men (I date the pick of the bunch, evidently), I’m steering clear of those types.
Earlier this week, I was talking about behavioural standards (like the one listed below) and a new acquaintance asked me where I got all of this from. I said that I suppose these thoughts enter my mind when I am out on a date, and it occurs to me, “hmmm it would really be nice if he…”. But of course a lot of it comes from experiencing chivalry from men during previous encounters. I’m merely compiling the good ones! And yes, that means I’ve had lots of bad ones too.
So here it is. It is tempting to judge me, but don’t pretend for a moment that you don’t have standards of your own! Yeahyeahyeah!!