Where am I going with this?
Of late, it had come to my attention that in the throes of passion, men might not think to ask the (seemingly impractical) question, “Are you going to come?” only to bypass the democratic rights of their partner, and have a solo happy ending. Riiiiiiiight.
A male friend of mine said that he’d read in several men’s special interest magazines that a lot of women are incapable of having the big O during intercourse, and figured that if his partner isn’t showing signs of an oncoming climax, he would just finish the dirty deed, with no guilt, and no compensation plan.
This, to me, is an absolute dealbreaker. And so I decided to collectively poll several man friends about this.To my shock and horror, most of them said they wouldn’t ask. I received the following excuses:
– It ruins the mood to ask
– It’s about constant feedback
– It’s a give and take thing
– Sometimes I can’t help it (most popular response)
And practically all these men have partners. The only one person who didn’t have a partner said he would certainly ask, because he wants to make sure she gets her turn.
Later that day, one of these men decided to ask a female in my presence if she felt differently to me, and she told him, “These things matter to us.”
I couldn’t have put it more succinctly. Or I suppose I could, by saying, “You selfish bastard!”
I should clarify that my focus group consisted of Chinese men, with the exception of one Eurasian, and of which a large majority live in Australia.
Could it be a Chinese thing? I certainly hope not!
It’s time to poll my Caucasian friends so as to balance out the racial bias of the sample size.
Men, do us womenkind a favour, and please be more considerate lovers!
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